I talk about body positivity a lot. But today, I’m going to keep it real with you. Sometimes it really just sucks to be “average.” I’m no waif, but I’m not plus sized. I’m strong AF, but I’m not fit. I’m not thin, I’m not fat… I don’t know what I am. But I really hate that I feel like I have to give myself a label.
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Bikini: Swimsuits for All
Dress: Swimsuits for All
Sunnies: Ray Ban
Hat: Eclectic Array (more on them soon!)
Becoming so involved in a world where I’m forced to “define my niche” every day has been eye opening. This was something Emily and I struggled with at the very beginning. Who is our audience? What is our message? What are we selling? We were told our niche was too broad, too narrow, too confusing. But from day one, we have always loved how many different women we get to reach. We get moms, wives, single girls, fitness girls, beauty obsessed — you name it, we cover it. Why would we want to cut down on that? The kindest most heartfelt messages we receive come from my body positive posts or Emily’s motherhood posts. So many women in the world feel the same way I do, yet they seem to remain unrepresented in the influencer marketing world.
I was recently asked to recommend other influencers that talk about body positivity to a brand. Besides Sarah (Sassy Red Lipstick), I literally could only come up with TWO influencers who address these issues. That is SO sad to me. Now, I could name plenty of average sized bloggers who photoshop themselves into a size two — but those are not the types of people I wanted to suggest. In case you are new and didn’t catch my rant about the negative impacts of Facetune and Photoshop check it out >>> here. I love rereading that post because I still mean every single word.
My whole life I have felt like I was “in between,” which is a lot harder than it sounds. Because of my body type, dresses with zippers don’t often fit me. I reached out to one particular brand for the Reward Style conference and even their largest size wouldn’t even go on my body. I cried of course, but this is something I have dealt with for SO long. I literally only have maybe two friends that I can share clothes with.
This is why I was so excited to discover the brand, Swimsuits for All. Their sizes range from 4-34. Finally, a brand that includes just about everyone. The particular pieces I’m wearing were designed in a collaboration with Gabi Fresh. Someone I have looked up to for a very long time. And they did not disappoint. I didn’t feel ugly or insecure when I put them on. In fact, I felt anything but average.
Makeup by: Pretty Girl Makeup
This is the first post I’ve read of yours. And I’m so pleased I’ve found it.
I thought it was just me, who had these body annoyances. You don’t believe you belong in the fat girl category but you know your not the skinny one of your friends. Companies put zips in there clothes so you know they won’t fit right. My biggest beef is with shirts, I have boobs but my waist isn’t the same size. Why do brands think this. If it fits my boobs it’s baggy everywhere else. If it fits around my waist, my boobs are hanging out.
Thank you for writing this!!
I read this post yesterday and loved it! I have always been “average” too and feel like it’s hard to fit into any category. And I just shared about body positivity on my blog last week. You look stunning by the way!
Girl, YES. I am an average sized woman myself & sometimes it’s hard to define when you’re not super skinny OR “plus size.” I love the idea of sharing different body types so we can all be represented!
I completely agree, it is hard to just be in the average range in the world we live in!
I love that you are so inclusive! I always classified myself as average and have gained weight over the years. all of a sudden one day my friend texted a screenshot of a pin of mine that she saw was re pinned a bunch on Pinterest and the caption was something about how to style XXX if you’re plus size. I was like ok guess that’s where I am now! It took some getting used to but I must say I do love having my blog as a platform for body positivity! I’m certainly not where I want to be but I feel like I’m where I’m supposed to be! It helps to have other bloggers like you!
Love this post! Fitting into a certain mold, whichever that may be, is so unnecessary and strange! We’re all different and we’re all human. You look beautiful, by the way! Loooove that coverup, so chic!
thanks for sharing this! love your honesty!
you’re so beautiful regardless of what size.
Love this post. I totally agree with you , sometimes it can be hard to fit in. You look stunning !!!
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I love your honesty and being so open about your feelings because I think so many of us feel the same way but don’t talk about it, especially on blogs. You look really great and I’m always so inspired by your body positivity!
Thanks for sharing this and being vulnerable, which isn’t easy to do publicly! I feel the same exact way! I feel awkwardly in the middle of plus size and regular sizes. I can’t just wear anything and still have it flattering! #struggleisreal