This past week was super emotional for me. As Emily mentioned earlier in the week; I had some pretty awful things said about me when Yahoo covered one of my stories. I was obviously extremely hurt by some of these words, but I refused to let them win. The week ended with me flying to North Carolina with some of my favorite babes for a body positivity campaign. I can’t wait to tell you more about that, but in the meantime — let’s talk about body shaming. It’s a huge epidemic in society today, and it has to stop.
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I went back and forth if I wanted to even write about my experience with the Yahoo article. One on hand, it’s giving power and life to these awful comments, but on the other hand, maybe people will realize that just because I’m “putting myself out there doesn’t mean I’m not human. Just because I portray myself as body positive and confident doesn’t mean that these words don’t sometimes affect me. When I saw what happened to Rihanna this week, I knew I couldn’t ignore it. Body shaming is real — and it happens to everyone; even Gisele.
Here are some of the lovely words strangers left me last week:
LISTEN UP. You are FAT. You are UGLY. And right now I am trying desperately to forget the photos you posted of yourself. Please, please, please…..just go away quietly and never post anything ever again.
I’m not sharing this because I want your pity; nor am I going to turn this post into me defending myself. Everyone who knows me knows none of these things are true. But I do want to say one thing — I do not do any of this for attention. I do it to make a difference. I share my struggles and my hardships because I know other women relate. I do it because every single one of your positive comments and messages keeps me going. I wanted to bring light to this situation, in the hopes to end body shaming. I write this blog to empower women, not to tear them down. When I get messages saying that I inspired someone to put on a swimsuit for the first time in five years, or that they finally were brave enough to take a photo at the beach — THAT is why I share my story. Not to get attention — but to change the rhetoric of body image in this world.
As women, we already have so many things going against us. For a curvy girl — we have even more. Including shopping. I have talked about this a lot — how it’s hard to find clothes that fit properly. Especially when you have a booty like mine — one that I work hard for.
That is why I’m so excited to share a denim brand with you all that also aligns with my same message. Good American. It’s so hard to find jeans as a curvy girl. Founded by my girl, Khloe Kardashian, she knows the struggle and I appreciate her starting this line. The worst thing in the world is when you are already feeling kind of down on yourself, and you go to try on clothes and just sink even lower with your self-confidence.
This is why I was so excited to finally try on some Good American jeans. Good American is sold exclusively at Nordstrom. I was so excited about trying the brand that I bought three pairs. Good American comes in sizes 00-24 and is made right here in California. They market the jeans for the curvier, sexier, stronger woman. I am so excited to see this brand at my favorite store. So if you experience these same frustrations when trying on jeans (you know the “wiggle” I’m talking about), then run to Nordstrom.com and order some Good American ASAP!
I am wearing the Good Legs High Rise Crop. Out of the three pairs I shot with my photographer, these were her favorite. Compared to the other denim brands I wear, Good American is surprisingly affordable — this pair is under $160. And it’s worth the price, they are so well made and fit me perfectly. I paired it with a simple knotted tee, my new favorite bag (under $50), and these bow slides (under $60)!
Given all of the negativity, and body shaming I experienced this past week. I was so relieved to discover a brand that made me feel confident instead of the other way around. I hope more brands start to follow suit.
Thank you to Nordstrom for sponsoring this post.
You are more beautiful, intelligent, confident, and kind then this people will ever hope to be. The people that know and love you support you 100%. These people are NMFF. ❤️
Love you mama.
Admiring your strength!
That is absurd! I’ve always had issues with people who say mean things to people they don’t know or haven’t met. But you are gorgeous and I’m sure you know that already! So keep doing what you do!
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Wow gal, that is terrible. I am so sorry there was people like that out there that would say such hurtful things. You my friend, are gorgeous. Inside and out!! Keep your head up, you are killing it lady!
xo Laura Leigh
I read the comments on that article last week, and it was downright sickening. It made me furious that people think it is okay to say these things about someone just because they don’t like your body shape. Well lucky for them, it’s not their body, so keep on scrolling people. Just because you have a public website does not mean that people should act like trash and say such things like it’s a free for all. It’s really sad. I love you and am buying these jeans now because of you. Love how flattering they are!
People are so gross . You are such a fabulous person and exude positivity and strength… and you made it onto Yahoo— that is BIG. Forget these jerkoffs, you should feel extremely proud. PS- You are killing it in those jeans… love!
Keep it up and do you <3
That is absolutely unreal. I hope you don’t give their words a second thought. You look gorgeous and you are rocking this denim!
I look forward to your posts, pics, and fashion suggestions because I am not a stick figure either. I am 35 years old, and you’d think at this point in my life I would be comfortable in my own skin. I’m not. I pretty much loathe my body. Shopping for new clothes makes me feel fat and upset. I eat well, exercise, run a household and help maintain our 1.5 acre property, but due to having a body full of hormones that hate me, I can’t seem to drop some pounds where I’d like. This is where your posts come in- especially this one. The one clothing article that I don’t mind splurging on, and that makes me feel semi decent is a good pair of jeans. I live in my Paiges and Hudsons, and seeing this brand (even though I’m far from a Kardashian fan) made me excited about clothes for the first time in a long time. I just wanted to say thank you, and for you to know there are always going to be hurtful, negative people and comments. From what I’ve seen though, there are far more positive, enthusiastic ones, and those are the comments that matter the most
This comment brought tears to my eyes! I relate SO much. I also love Hudsons — they are the best, but I constantly find myself readjusting them or wiggling around until they are fitted properly over my booty. Like you, I work out constantly, rarely drink, try to eat Whole30 most of the time. This is just the way my body is. Thank you so much for your comment — it meant so much! Keep doing you boo! xx
I read that post and the comments section was UNREAL – I was utterly ASHAMED of humanity reading that. But you coming BACK from it even stronger? You restore that faith. Keep doing what you’re doing. Haters gonna hate hate hate hate hate…SHAKE IT OFF, beautiful!!!
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Thank you so much friend. Your support means the world to me!
I am so sorry this happened!! this is horrible to read about someone else, let alone have happen to you. I am so proud of you for keeping your chin up through all this – you are an inspiration for all of us!!! just keep in mind that haters mean you’ve finally made it haha 😛
Thank you so much love. Your words mean so much!
I think you look AMAZING!!! And yay for these jeans!!! I shared a bikini photo on my blog, Instastories, and IG this week (plan on sharing another one tonight with a body positivity message. In my blog post, I mention that I thought about NOT posting the picture, but did anyways.
So proud of you!!!!
People have serious issues to talk about another human being that way! You look great and are giving so many people a look at clothes on another body type. If anything there is a need/want for that from others who identify can identify with you.
I agree! People are crazy! Thank you so much for your kind words!
What an inspiration you are!! I can’t believe people sometimes!!!
Thank you so much. I can’t believe it either!